If you're using silicone-based toys, you'll want to stick to water-based lube, but if you're just using your hands, please use silicone-based lube. In fact, "water actually washes away the natural lubrication your vagina makes and can increase unpleasurable friction," she says. While the shower may make you wet, water actually isn't lubrication, says Engle. Ideally, you'll do so with lots of lubes. Then, touch yourself or your partner! This is a great opportunity to ask your partner to show you what they like, she says. (Think: neck, thighs, scalp, hips, breasts, armpits, lower back, and ears). "Using your hands allows you to discover and rediscover your and your partner's non-genital erogenous zones," suggests Finn. "Shower sex is not fun when you insist penetrative sex is the end-all-be-all," says Engle. This is a good rule in general, but is especially apt for shower sex: Don't make everything about a P in the V. Gigi Engle, a certified sex coach, sexologist and author of All the F*cking Mistakes, recommends the Womanizer (Buy It, $156, ) for folks who like clit suction toys and Unbound's Bender (Buy It, $69, ) or Saucy (Buy It, $69, ) for buzzier clit stimulation. That way you can hold on with one hand and stimulate your clit with another for the best shower sex experience. If you've got a handle that you can hang onto, don't be afraid to get some toys in on the action.
Use your arms to press back into their thrusts, tilting your pelvis this way and that until they're hitting your O-spot. With both your and your partner's feet planted on the ground (ideally, on a no-slip bath mat covered ground), your partner can grab onto your hips and enter you from behind. Bonus points if your wall has a well-placed shower handle (such as this one).įace away from your partner and, well, back that ass up. Why? Because the partner being penetrated can face the wall and use it for support. Validate me: This shower sex position's name is hilarious, right? " Doggy-style sex is actually one of the better and safer ways you can have sex in the shower," according to sex educator Cassandra Corrado with O.school. (Related: 8 Scary Condom Mistakes You Could Be Making). So, play before you suds up or make sure to rinse it allll the way off before donning protection. Need proof? Scroll down for all the different shower sex positions that sex educators say will help you create your own xxx-rated shower sex routine.įriendly PSA: "If your shampoos or soaps are oil-based, they can degrade latex and make condoms and latex barriers less effective," according to Finn. "There's no need to contort your body into all sorts of shapes and positions to enjoy sensual touch under water," she says. So, what's the key to making shower sex feel, well, sexy? Your shower sex positions should not involve trying to be an acrobat…unless you're actually an acrobat, according to Finn. "The heat of the water can also help you and your muscles relax, making sex physically easier and more pleasurable." "Any time you bring a new environment into your sex life, it can feel sexy and adventurous," says Finn. Here's the thing: While IRL shower sex tends to fall short (just me?), Lisa Finn, a sex educator at sex toy emporium Babeland says it can be awesome. Whether it's Dear John, Fifty Shades Darker, or Queer As Folk, you probably remember one shower sex scene that convinced you that shower sex would be hot to try yourself.